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Oliver H. Bailey
01-23-2009, 11:22 AM
Hello Everyone,
As many of you may be aware, my wife Susan was diagnosed in January 2007 with bone marrow cancer. I have been her primary care giver these past two years and I am sad to say that Sue lost her battle with cancer on December 29th, 2008.

in the upcoming weeks I plan on getting back to finish the Propeller book which was delayed so I could take care of Sue. I hope to have the book completed in the next couple months.

Sue fought a courageous battle, never complained, and was always uplifting, even to the end. We were married almost 20 years and she will be missed by all who knew her.

Many of you have sent me private emails these past two years and I thank you for all the support I have received during her treatment and since her death.

Thank You and God Bless

01-23-2009, 11:29 AM

Stay strong. That's not an easy loss to bear. Please consider my best regards when you feel down.

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Oldbitcollector (Jeff)
01-23-2009, 11:41 AM

My sincere condolences on your loss... May you always cherish fond memories of Sue.

You will be in my thoughts and prayers.

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Bob Lawrence (VE1RLL)
01-23-2009, 12:23 PM

I am fairly new to the Propeller world(I purchased a Hybrid board in May, 2008) On occasion, I eagerly visited the Propeller portion of your blog and was pleasantly surprised to read about your up and coming Propeller book, which was in progress at the time. I checked back every few weeks, after my first visit but did not see any progress and thus, was disappointed. Several months later I learned of your personal family difficulties and felt bad that I was expecting progress during such a personal difficult time, for you. I admire the fact that you took the time to do what you could to help Susan and help her through such a difficult time. Unfortunately I don't have any aditional words that can help you in such an ordeal. I wish you well and I look forward to any updates you may provide to the book, in the next few months.


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Timothy D. Swieter
01-23-2009, 05:55 PM
Grace and peace to you Oliver - I can't imagine what you must be going through.

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Cole Logan
01-23-2009, 06:37 PM
I'm really sorry for your loss. I'll keep you in my prayers

01-23-2009, 06:53 PM
Oliver, Sorry to hear of your loss, I lost my mum back in Feb 5th last year, a date which is coming up again soon that I'm not looking forward to, even though my birthday is at the end of this month and my 2 year old daughters is on the 1st of Feb, So I also feel your pain, and wish you and your family the my wishes for you and all involved.


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01-23-2009, 09:42 PM
sigh, I lost my mom on 12/4/08, :( so I know a tiny part of what your feeling. I can't really offer any thing to say other than that. I'm sorry.

01-23-2009, 09:47 PM
I can relate Oliver, I lost an uncle, a grandfather and a grandmother to cancer. It's not an easy way to see them go like that. Best regards..
Mike, NYC area USA

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01-24-2009, 01:25 AM
My sympathy and prayers, Oliver.

Just remember, grieving is NOT a two or three week process. It can take at least a year. Most people do not realize that, and wind up saying silly things.

Again, my prayers are with you and yours.


Oliver H. Bailey
01-24-2009, 11:31 PM
Thanks to everyone for your good wishes. Having a near death experience myself in the early 1980's and having been with a my dad and younger sister when they both passed, there is nothing that compares to losing a spouse.

Because Sue was sick for so long and I was her primary care giver, I can assure everyone that I am dealing with my grief and healing in a positive way. sue was in hospice and they have professionals who have been in touch.

Please accept my sincere thanks for your good wishes and keep us in your prayers. I will be back to work very soon.


Oliver Bailey

01-25-2009, 04:08 AM
Oliver H. Bailey (http://forums.parallax.com/member.php?u=44099)·My God I am so sorry to hear that. I will keep you and her in my prayers ,, we lost my sister inlaw a few years ago she was 37 with 3 kids we loved her just like our own she had dated my brother since they 14 , I am a big tough military guy but I know its the kind of pain that hurts your soul to watch someone ·you love pass I am· truly sorry for your loss.

01-25-2009, 10:36 AM

My sympathy to you on the loss of your wife. My wife of 20 yrs passed away Dec 1, after a 3 yr battle with early onset Alzheimer's.

It is wonderful that you were able to be Sue's dedicated caregiver, and it is good that you are now attempting to keep occupied with the completion of your book. Please understand however, that each of us grieves at his/her own pace and time, so ignore those who will inevitably tell you to "get over it, and go on with life". I'm sure your wife was a lovely lady, and is certainly an even more beautiful angel in Heaven.


NB: My wife's Alzheimer's was the result of unattended head injuries during her life. Think of the state that Muhammed Ali is in now due to the boxing injuries sustained during his career. So...if you ever have a head injury of any sort, GET TO THE HOSPITAL, the effects don't show up until years in the future, when its too late to do anything about it!!

Post Edited (cimplex) : 1/25/2009 3:46:37 AM GMT

01-26-2009, 04:46 AM
Oliver. I don't have the words to express my feelings for your loss, but know that you and yours will be in my prayers.


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01-26-2009, 05:40 AM
Oliver, I don't know you, but that is an unthinkable horror. God Bless You and Keep You and Give you Strength.

01-26-2009, 08:01 AM
Just my condolences to you, & don´t stop pls.
Maybe sometime you'll get meet with her again, I hope would be later but sure.

Sorry for my English.



01-26-2009, 08:26 AM
My best wishes as well. I believe that the best thing that you can do for her is to remember her to people like us as you continue to contribute. We appreciate your work, and I'll appreciate it in her name for a while.

01-26-2009, 12:29 PM
I would like to say im sorry for your loss, i lost a grandfather a few years back and there is rarely a day i dont think about him, in my mind i think there is no end to some grievences just changes in how·they are handled,·some advice during your grieving process, if you need to talk to someone, there are always people that will listen, be it here or somewhere else, your in my prayers and good luck